Creating a Birth Preferences Guide (Without Feeling Overwhelmed)
A gentle guide to help you prepare with confidence—not stress.
Bringing a baby into the world is one of the most transformative moments of your life. But between all the appointments, advice, and unexpected feelings, creating a birth plan (or as I like to call it, a birth preferences guide) can feel like just another thing on the to-do list.
Let’s take the pressure off. This guide is here to help you get clear on your wishes without getting overwhelmed—so you feel prepared, empowered, and supported.
What Is a Birth Preferences Plan?
Instead of locking in every detail, think of your plan as a flexible guide that communicates your hopes and priorities during labor and birth. Birth is unpredictable, but having a plan helps you stay informed and helps your support team know how to advocate for you.
Why I Call It a “Birth Preferences Guide”
I personally like to use the term birth preferences guide instead of "birth plan"—because birth is beautifully unpredictable. Things can shift quickly, and having preferences rather than a rigid plan can take the pressure off if your birth unfolds differently than expected. This approach helps you stay flexible while still making your voice and values clear.
What to Include in Your Birth Preferences
Here are some areas you might want to think about:
1. Environment
Do you want the lights dimmed?
Would you like music playing or quiet?
Who do you want in the room with you?
2. Pain Management Options
Are you open to medication (like an epidural)?
Would you like to try natural pain relief techniques first (like water, massage, movement)?
3. Monitoring & Mobility
Do you want intermittent or continuous fetal monitoring?
Do you hope to move around freely during labor?
4. Pushing & Delivery
Would you like to try different positions for pushing?
Do you want your partner to catch the baby or cut the cord?
5. Newborn Care
Do you want immediate skin-to-skin contact?
Delayed cord clamping?
Vitamin K, eye ointment, or initial baths?
6. Backup Preferences
What are your wishes in case of an emergency or C-section?
Would you prefer a “gentle cesarean” if possible?
Tips to Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed
Start small. You don’t have to make every decision today. Begin with your top 3-5 priorities.
Use a template. A good birth preferences worksheet (like the one I provide for my clients!) makes things easier.
Talk it through. Review your wishes with your doula, partner, and care provider so everyone’s on the same page.
Remember—it’s a guide, not a script. Plans may change, and that’s okay. You’re still in charge.
Final Thoughts
Creating a birth preferences plan isn’t about controlling every detail—it’s about feeling heard, supported, and informed. When your team knows your vision, they can better support your choices and your peace of mind.
You’ve got this—and I’m here every step of the way.
Want help creating your birth preferences guide?
Contact me today to schedule a free consultation. [here]. We’ll walk through it together!
